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A New Beginning for 2018


My name is Julie D, and I would like to share a personal journey my husband and I began in February, 2017. The reason I am so excited to send my message is that I hope my personal journey could help someone else who might be struggling with weight and trying to figure out how to “lose those excess pounds.” If I can help at least ONE person, then this blog will be so worth it!

A little background about myself: Growing up, I was as thin as a rail and eventually hit 100 pounds at age 21. There were never any weight issues that I had to be concerned with until I hit my 40s! A position that took me all over the country, which included business travel with all expenses paid, brought me up to 185 pounds.

In 2005, both my husband and I had started counting points with Weight Watchers and lost more than 85 pounds between the two of us.  We decided to add some physical activity, and purchased two bikes.  During that first year we rode a total of 300 miles. But 12 years later, we found that we had gained back 70% of the weight we had lost, and knew we needed to “do something” to drop the extra pounds and get healthier, as our health providers kept reminding us at every physical.

Last February, I was invited to a small fellowship of ladies who felt like I did about my weight. We agreed to gather and discuss some of our personal concerns and whether we would like to begin the journey to a better lifestyle. The 3 of us decided to gather weekly to begin evaluating our personal goals and desires to get healthier. This was not just a food strategy, portion control, weight loss program; but, more importantly, it would be an in-depth reflection on the true reasons we overate and what we could do to manage our habits. After 10 months, the good news is that, between my husband and me, we have lost more than 55 pounds.  But, more importantly, we have gained the tools and dedication we need to keep the momentum going forward!

Are you ready for the New Year?

It is always a challenging time of year for us to embrace the past and look forward to the future. I can’t tell you how many years I would have to brace myself for constant advertisements highlighting New Year’s resolutions and “Quick Weight Loss” programs that kept repeating and repeating. I thought if I heard about another stranger who lost over 90 pounds, I would scream!!!  Losing weight is NOT easy. If it were, few people would be in the shape that they currently are in.

The most difficult step I had to take was the first one: Facing the accountability to go to that first get-together with the ladies who were also suffering with excess food and fat. For the next month, we collaborated weekly to discuss personal struggles, strategies, and successes. After 4 weeks, I wasn’t like all the weight loss commercials promised, and I had barely dropped one pound!! It was not the idea of losing excess weight quickly that motivated me (I didn’t think a woman in menopause could lose a pound), but the friendship and faith-based meetings that allowed me to think much deeper about food and control. Believe me, consuming food is a MIND game, and changing your habits and attitudes is half the battle.

I do not have any secrets or magical schemes for weight loss and lifestyle adjustments. Most weight loss programs offer some sort of come-on that implies you will get slim fast and furious, and then you will be set for life! This is only a fantasy!! It is proven that most plans will work initially, but then the weight will eventually return if you have not made a deeper commitment.

After 10 months of success and still on track, I want to share some key principles you may want to consider for your own individual lifestyle and New Beginning:

* Be honest with yourself.

* Maintain a 2,000 calorie plan every day, knowing you will have better days and worse days. It is OK to “cheat” every so often, but you must be mindful of what you are eating and stay on plan consistently.

*Never refer to your new lifestyle plan as a “DIET.” It is right next to the word “die” in the dictionary, and if there is any one word that is a complete turnoff for any normal human being, it is this word. Ask yourself when you purchase food, “Is this a need or a want?” You will be surprised at how much food is not necessary and a poor dietary choice.

*Eat REAL food. Stay away from processed foods. Select food that is “colorful” and rich in nutrients and vitamins. (And, yes, this should include fruits and vegetables.)

*Limit your portions. Get to know what an actual portion should look like.  (You will be shocked!) Most restaurants serve guests 3-5 portions per plate! If you dine out frequently, make sure to recognize your (1) portion, place it on your plate, and immediately request a To Go box to be brought to the table before you devour it all! Remember, you can eat just about anything, but you must be aware of the fat and calories you are eating.

*Don’t get hung up on a “number” for your actual weight loss. I try to stay away from scales and numbers. My pants will tell me where I am each day! Be aware your weight loss may not be immediate, but consider your overall measurements. When you decide to start your new plan, make sure to take all your measurements and keep them for future reference.

*Think LONG-TERM goals. This will take patience and planning. This should be a realistic goal (one year or even longer). I continue to look at the “future goal,” not a finite date when I can return to my old habits!

* Try to find some sort of additional physical exercise. It might be as simple as lifting a few weights, walking, biking, or anything that you might enjoy!

*Don’t take it too seriously, and try to enjoy the new foods and benefits you will discover if you stay on plan.

You can do it! Dedication will bring amazing results that can last you a lifetime.



Countdown to Baby Griffin!

Countdown to Baby Griffin! By our favorite financial blogger,

Mr. Jamie Griffin      Holy Cow!  Baby Griffin is almost here!

Becoming first-time parents is really a rollercoaster ride.  We have no baseline of what to expect, so any strange pain or feeling Jenna experiences gets us concerned about something going wrong or the baby coming early.  I’m sure we’ll be much less sensitive for Baby #2.

(In case you haven’t noticed, we really like to plan, so I have a Baby app that tracks our pregnancy to the day.)

Our Crib is Fully Assembled!

Baby Griffin has a place to sleep.  Our crib is beautiful.  It was also free, which is my favorite price for anything.  Our friends gave it to us only asking that we never give it back.  45 minutes with an allen wrench and our beautiful crib is ready to hold our adorable bundle of joy.  Not bad, huh?


I can’t believe how unbelievably expensive daycare is.  It’s insane!!!  It makes me wonder if I went into the wrong career.  In our city, daycare ranges from $800 a month to over $1,000 for just one kid.

Luckily, we got a jump on this and found someone we know and trust in the lower price range.  Some have waiting lists until August of 2019!!!  With Baby Griffin due to arrive in March, that leaves us with about 7 weeks left of the school year, when Jenna’s 6-week paid maternity leave expires.  Here’s the plan:

Part 1:  Use our own sick time to extend maternity leave.  Jenna and I each get 8 sick days a year, and they carry over if we don’t use them.  I have about 40 days and Jenna has roughly 35.  She can extend her leave by taking sick days.  When she goes back, I’ll take 2 weeks of sick time to get one-on-one Daddy time.

Part 2:  Family has volunteered to help.  Both of our families are amazing! Jenna’s brother called randomly and asked if he could fly down from Alaska and care for Baby Griffin for a week.  Seriously, you can’t make this up!  We were blown away and obviously said yes!  Jenna’s brother is awesome and will take our little tyke for all kinds of hikes.

Jenna’s mom is planning on traveling from southern Illinois to watch the baby for a week.



My family has also offered to come up for a week or two.  I have 3 sisters, and all of them said they would love to come and hold the baby for hours on end.

What’s left?

  1. Pack hospital bags.
  2. Work out daycare in case Baby comes early.
  3. Call insurance company to make sure everything is in order.
  4. Write out birthing plan:
  • Avoid epidural if possible
  • C-section only as a last resort
  • Nobody else in the delivery room but Dad
  • Dad gets to announce gender and present Baby to Mom


It’s the Final Countdown!


With only a few weeks left, we’re so close to meeting our little guy/girl we couldn’t be more excited.  I get all giddy and smiley just thinking about it!






Love?  Who needs it?  Psst…we all do! 

Love?  Who needs it?  Psst…we all do!   By Sharon Sheppard

I have a treasure chest—actually it’s a photo box I bought at Target, but it’s covered with colorful hearts and roses and cupids—and it holds treasured reminders of the years my husband and I spent together.  Each time I open the box, strange things happen to me.  I smile and I cry.  I’m filled with wonder and joy, and also with longing.  He is the only guy I ever dated, and we married when I was 19 and he was 22.  We went to college together, raised a family together, started a business together, taught together during 3 short-term missions in Latvia, traveled to 31 countries together, and so much more.

I was in high school and he was in college when we started dating, and the treasure box holds every letter we ever wrote to each other during that time.  Always the aspiring writer/English teacher, I also kept a diary of all our dates.  (He didn’t know this until many years after we married, when I typed up the diary, added photos, and gave it to him for Valentine’s Day.)  The diary is filled with stories of where we went, who we saw, what we had to eat, what I wore, what he said, what I said…You get the picture.

My husband is with the Lord now, as I sift through the box of assorted memorabilia from long ago.  The diary is there, cards we exchanged, along with a receipt for the first month’s rent on our first apartment together ($45).   And tonight I’m remembering how we laughed and cried as we read the diary together that Valentine’s Day I first gave it to him.

The following year on Valentine’s Day, he said, “Can we read the diary again?”

Not everyone is fortunate enough to be blessed with a loving marriage, but there are many kinds of love, and we all crave the closeness of meaningful relationships.  It’s the way God made us.  And love is one of God’s best gifts to us.

So no one goes unloved, because God is Love. And He “so loved the world that He gave His only Son so that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)

That’s true love.

Legal Wrangling

LEGAL WRANGLING    By freelance writer Joyce Ellis . . . I’ve always loved legal wrangling. Growing up, watching TV shows such as Perry Mason, I quickly learned legal-battle terminology.  District attorney Hamilton Burger frequently rose to his feet and objected to questions on the basis that they were “incompetent, irrelevant, and immaterial.”

Unlike many people, I’ve jumped at my two opportunities for jury duty and, as foreperson, I’ve read the verdict for my fellow jurors. The tension of a courtroom battle and the struggle for justice have equipped me for spiritual battles.

It seemed a little thing at the time, and I was only a child. But I took something that didn’t belong to me, knowing it was wrong. The details aren’t important. I’ve come to this type of battle with other sins as well. At first I tried to rationalize it. But having already committed my life to Jesus, I became angry at myself for giving in to temptation. With God’s prompting, I confessed my sin and claimed His promise that He is “faithful and just to forgive us our sins” (1 John 1:9 nlt).

I believe that’s when the legal wrangling in the heavenly realms intensified. Over and over, my thoughts returned to what I did. How could I, a believer—even a child-believer—well-taught in the Scriptures, do such a thing? Circumstances prevented restitution, but I asked God repeatedly to forgive me and erase the painful memory.

Amazingly, the guilt haunted me into adulthood and resurfaced often as I tried to follow the Lord’s calling on my life. The Enemy, like a prosecuting attorney, accused me of being “incompetent” to serve God. The battle raged on.

Then one day, a courtroom phrase came to mind. Sometimes, when an attorney questions a witness and receives an answer, the attorney will come at the same question from another angle, trying to trip up the witness. At that point, the opposing counsel typically jumps up and says, “I object, Your Honor. Asked and answered.”

That was it—my answer for Satan, our “accuser” (Rev. 12:10).

I determined to listen no longer to Satan’s accusations.

The Bible says we all sin. We all have things in our past—maybe in our present, too—that the Enemy delights in using to accuse us and make us feel—even believe—we are “incompetent, irrelevant, and immaterial.”

But “we have an advocate [a defense attorney] with the Father,” the Apostle John reminds us, “Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins” (1 John 2:1–2 niv, brackets added). And I have accepted His payment for all my sins.

So Satan can accuse me all he wants in the courts of heaven, but Jesus actively advocates on my behalf and gives me the authority to say, “I object! Asked and answered.”


© 2017 Joyce K. Ellis

This blog is adapted from an article by Joyce K. Ellis, which originally appeared in Indeed magazine. Ellis is the author of more than a dozen books, including The 500 Hats of a Modern-Day Woman and Write with Excellence. She speaks for women’s events across the country and often speaks and serves with missions teams in Guatemala. Contact her at her website: Her books are available on her website and on